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"From The
Coach's Corner" Articles by Brian J. Zahn
Our Life’s Past – the Building Blocks To a Better
Tomorrow.
by Brian J. Zahn - Certified Life Coach, Author and
Speaker
John F. Kennedy Jr., the 35th President of the United
States of America, once said “We don’t we don’t know where
we are going, until we know where we have been.” This
statement can’t be closer to the truth than when it comes
to understanding the meaning of each event from our past
in order to help build a more happy and successful
tomorrow.
Before we begin, allow me to clarify the meaning of the
word “PAST”. Webster’s Dictionary defines the word “Past”
as “having existed in or having occurred during a time
previous to the present moment”. In other words, by
reading this line right now, the paragraph above has moved
into the previous moment in time…the past.
Each and every day from the moment we wake up, we will
make hundreds of decisions that will affect our lives in
the present moment. With each “new” choice we are faced
with, our best intentions for happiness are highest in our
minds. Once we experience an outcome from this “new”
decision, only then can we put a price tag on the end
result and determine if it gave us a positive or negative
response. This process will continue throughout our lives
for each “new” choice that is upon us, while the previous
one will become part of our past.
However, things change when we are faced with an “old”
choice that reappears in the present moment. By recalling
the past event and the end result it gave us, we can then
educate ourselves and learn to either repeat the event
because of a positive outcome or dismiss it and move right
along so we don’t make the same mistakes twice. It’s with
these “past” experiences that are our true building blocks
for keeping us moving forward and to create a more happy
and successful tomorrow.
Let me give you an example on
how you can benefit from the “Past”. Let’s say that you
dated a person who treated you with disrespect by cheating
on you. By looking into the experience with this person,
we can start taking inventory of the outcome. Did you
receive a positive or negative result? Once you have this
awareness, you can then evaluate how it truly made you
feel in your heart. Did you feel happy or sad? By
recognizing and analyzing the end result, your perception
of this person may change from the time you met them until
you left. Now, when a new person comes into view in the
present moment, the first thing you recall from the past
is the previous person that disrespected you by cheating.
This red flag of cheating is the first thing you would
want to talk about before you decide whether the new
person is worthy of your time and love. As you can see,
the past is like a photograph that you took and placed in
a photo album of your subconscious. Any time you want to
recall the effects of the past, you can bring the memory
to the present moment in time to help you with a choice
that will affect your future. By understanding the results
of the past events in your life, you can truly predict the
outcome because you have already lived the result.
Since becoming a life coach, I have realized our greatness
comes in being positive, proactive and seeing the glass
half full. Those who seem stuck in their lives or who
dwell on being unhappy live mostly in the past and
condition themselves to never learning from it. They
continue to be blinded and ignore the signs that would
have helped them move forward, and utilize fear to hold
them back from horrible or hurtful experiences. Hence, the
word past becomes an acronym for them meaning: P-eople
A-lways S-tuck in T-ime.
Remember, the important thing is to have awareness of what
is going on in your life so that you can recognize the
patterns that you’ve already established and begin to make
new and more productive choices to create the outcomes
that you truly desire in the present. By simply shifting
the focus, getting out of your own way, taking ownership
and accepting the past, you can then alter it and change
the acronym to mean something new: P-eople A-lways
S-trengthening
in
T-ime.
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Brian J. Zahn is a Certified
Life Coach, Author and Motivational Speaker. He is a
constant reminder that we can have anything we truly want
in life if we are the "KEY" to our happiness. The
important thing to remember is to be "Focused", be
"Present" and "BE THE KEY™"
" in your life
that will unlock and open new doors to your happiness,
instead of being the obstacle. Reach out for Brian today
and let him INSPIRE, MOTIVATE and GUIDE you
compassionately, while discovering the "KEY" that's in
"YOU". Web: www.bethekey.net Telephone: 480-254-5000
Email: Brian@Anewviewtoanewyou.com
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