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"From The
Coach's Corner" Articles by Brian J. Zahn
Our HEART vs Our HEAD
by Brian J. Zahn - Certified Life Coach, Author and
Speaker
Recently, while shopping at a local toy store, I found
myself walking up and down the aisles passing one excited
child after another. By their expressions on their faces,
I could see that they were glowing with each glance of a
toy or doll they saw and this made me smile. Soon my smile
was taken away from a mother yelling at her children to
put the toys back on the shelves and to stop touching
everything. How anyone could bring a child to a toy store
and expect them to keep their hands to themselves without
getting excited or wanting to touch something defies all
the laws of nature at being in a toy store.
The next thing I heard was the kid’s cheers of joy turning
into the tears of sorrow. I thought to myself, where’s
this mother’s heart?
As I glanced back at the shelf in front of me, I noticed
the Playskools’ toy, Mr. Potato Head, and the picture
showing all the accessories that were included, eyes,
ears, nose, mouth, mustache, glasses, hat, bowtie, arms,
legs, purse and shoes. I then thought to myself, that
there was something seriously wrong with this toy…it was
missing the most important piece, its heart.
As I stood there, I wondered to myself, where all of us
make our decisions from; our heart or our head. By
analyzing the characteristics for each, it gives us a
better understanding. When we choose our heart, we
understand that we are being more vulnerable in showing
our true feelings and emotions, and enabling us to be
closer to our own positive values, passions, creativity,
inspirations, dreams, wishes and love. However, when we
choose our head, we are in constant connection to the
mind, which has no concept of feelings or emotions, but
rather the processing and analyzing of thoughts, which
could lead us in making negative choices that are
connected to our fears.
Now, what would make us choose one over the other? This
conscious choice of decision making is usually made on the
outcome of one or more events that have taken place in our
past. For a moment, picture our heads as a big
brother/sister and our hearts as its younger sibling. No
matter what takes place in our lives, it’s our older
sibling that will fight off any school bullies that we
encounter. When something bad happens, it usually is
affected more in our hearts because we were being
vulnerable with our feelings. Since no one person likes to
deal with pain, the head tells the mind to turn on its
safety switch to stop the bleeding of pain that is taking
place. It builds a shelter, a room of safety with brick
walls surrounding its younger sibling so it can heal
itself from the disappointment and pain. However, when
something good happens in our lives, the heart breaks down
some of the brick walls, glows and enjoys it’s time of
happiness, while the head is nowhere to be found.
So where does one go from here? First and foremost, take a
deep breath and realize that we are all human. The only
way we learn in life is by making a few mistakes along the
way. As your life coach, ask yourself…
Where is it that you make decisions from, your heart or
your head?
With this awareness, now ask yourself, where would you
prefer it to come from?
Once you have this recognition, start writing down the
positive attributes that will come with these decisions.
This in itself will give you more clarity and connect you
to that in which you value.
Remember the next time you are faced with a decision in
life, it’s important to understand if it’s coming from
your heart or your head. By being completely truthful to
yourself, you’ll soon be able to make a conscious decision
that will have a positive effect. As for my toy store
visit, I decided not to purchase Mr. Potato Head as a gift
and picked one with a more heartfelt appeal.
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Brian J. Zahn is a Certified Life Coach, Author and
Motivational Speaker. He is a constant reminder that we
can have anything we truly want in life if we are the
"KEY" to our happiness. The important thing to remember is
to be "Focused", be "Present" and
"BE THE KEY™"
" in your life
that will unlock and open new doors to your happiness,
instead of being the obstacle. Reach out for Brian today
and let him INSPIRE, MOTIVATE and GUIDE you
compassionately, while discovering the "KEY" that's in
"YOU". Web: www.bethekey.net Telephone: 480-254-5000
Email: Brian@Anewviewtoanewyou.com
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