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"From The
Coach's Corner" Articles by Brian J. Zahn
Fear (False Evidence Appearing Real)
by Brian J. Zahn - Certified Life Coach, Author and
Speaker
Hello everyone and welcome back for another reading from
the Coach's Corner. Please take a seat because today I'm
going to talk about the dirtiest four letter word in the
English dictionary that starts with the word "F." So keep
your mind focused on this immobilizing word that holds all
of us back from enjoying the best in life...FEAR.
When you examine the word FEAR closely, you'll realize
that other words will hitch on for a ride like velcro
including "afraid", "anxiety" and "phobia". There are two
types of fears...Normal and Abnormal. Normal fears are
good. You see something heavy falling from the sky towards
you and you step aside to survive. The sudden fear of
being hit by this object is overcome by your action.
However, all other fears are abnormal. They were caused by
particular experiences or were passed along to you by
parents, relatives, siblings, loved ones, teachers and
others who influenced your early years. Abnormal fear
takes place when people allow false evidences to appear
real.
When you think of the word FEAR, what does it represent to
you? You can experience all types of fears in a lifetime.
There's really nothing that you can't develop fears,
anxieties or phobias of, including insects to snakes, cats
to dogs, from flying in an airplane to driving in a car,
heights to claustrophobia, doctors to dentists, needles to
pills, water to darkness, success to failure,
accommodation to confrontation, rejection to abandonment,
from living to dying, and on it goes. But are we really
fearful or are we just lacking in the education and hands
on knowledge of the circumstances?
Let's pick spiders for a
second. Are some of us fearful of them because they have
eight legs, look scary and invade our privacy? Maybe some
of us are for one reason or another, but have you actually
touched one and felt it crawl on your hand on purpose? Of
course you haven't because just the thought of touching it
would make you scream and run in the other direction.
However, if you never knew what a spider was, never saw
what one looked like or new about their positive
attributes to the world, would the fear be different?
Would we be able to overcome our anxiety if we had a more
clear perception to what spiders were all about and why
the existed?
I can tell you without a doubt that sometimes the hardest
thing in life is to conquer one's fears. When we aren't
ready, willing or able (RWA copyrighted by Jeff Saret) to
overcome them, we go into a panic mode that can cause some
of us to give up on our true happiness, become sick and
even possibly die. Some people live their entire lives in
fear and never get any help to move forward in living a
happy life. The act of being vulnerable and opening
themselves up is too great for them to bare. Those who
have had a horrible childhood make the decision early in
their lives to not have kids when they get older. Those
who have gotten their hearts crushed in a relationship
decide to live alone without companionship and love
because the pain they went through was too great to bare
again. As you can see, fear has made the decision for us.
So, what do you do now? Ralph Waldo Emerson, the great
nineteenth-century philosopher and poet, once said, "Do
the thing you are afraid to do, and the death of fear is
certain. Keeping this in mind, just ask yourself these
important questions:
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Who holds me back from having what I truly want in life?
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What am I truly afraid of?
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Where am I today and where will I be tomorrow?
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Why am I afraid to move forward?
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When will I let go of these fears, anxieties and phobias?
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How can I conquer these fears so I can start living the
life I need to live?
Now that you've done your homework, please realize that
you've just taken the first few steps in conquering your
fears. As your inspirational and motivational Life Coach,
working together one step at a time and at your own pace,
we can help in eliminating and conquering your fears and
start living the happy life that you were meant to live in
the first place.
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Brian J. Zahn is a Certified
Life Coach, Author and Motivational Speaker. He is a
constant reminder that we can have anything we truly want
in life if we are the "KEY" to our happiness. The
important thing to remember is to be "Focused", be
"Present" and "BE THE
KEY™" in your life that will unlock
and open new doors to your happiness, instead of being the
obstacle. Reach out for Brian today and let him INSPIRE,
MOTIVATE and GUIDE you compassionately, while discovering
the "KEY" that's in "YOU". Web: www.bethekey.net
Telephone: 480-254-5000 Email:
Brian@Anewviewtoanewyou.com
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